Good Morning You Guys!….

Well, you kinda sorta had the weekend off from thinking through the slightly mind-boggling concept of SELF-WORTH (unless you are a bit like me and your brain actually enjoys brewing on these things ..lol!)..But honestly, I have recognised that I cannot move forward from something if I am not even aware of it……

And so, here is an area of ‘worth’ that I KNOW will resonate with many people (because they have TOLD me so, in private, and many, many times over..). And well, I DO so clearly remember the time it began to dawn on me that soooo many people have been totally duped into believing that a LARGE piece of their worth was wrapped up in:

THEIR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE.

Uhhhhhh, ahhhhh, ohhhh, and OUCH!… Yes, this IS another area I hear a lot of STRUGGLE in — though I have never, ever struggled with that myself. ……

HA! DO you smell a ‘Liar, liar pants on Fire!!’?? lol!….Oh my, you have heard me say before, I didn’t even know this was something I had allowed to determine my WORTH, until well, my ‘appearance’ changed (aka; age, babies, GRAVITY….:)….Yup, what I looked like could either ‘make or break’ my day (anyone else out there able to GO there with me on that one?)…Truly, on some soul-level, HOW I looked soooo determined HOW I felt…

And therefore, in my mind, how much I was WORTH.

Yup, if I looked ‘good’, according to what I felt others said (or maybe more truthfully, what my own head chose to believe) then I was ‘GOOD to go’!!…For that day…..then hour…..then minute.. then moment…

And then?? Well, what happens when time, life, REALITY changes in my body — and its “beauty”??….When it begins to look ‘different’ than what the TV said it should, or could??….I really feel and definately doubt I am still ‘OK’, ’cause wasn’t the CORE of my WORTH wrapped up in only what the mirror reflected back to me?? Isn’t that just what we ALL ‘have to’ be, to BE something in our society?? I am right….. Right???….

WRONG!

We (ok, let’s just call a spade a spade on this one: me!!) have to learn how to discern just what we are placing our WORTH in or on….. And when I placed it on the “Pedestal of Physical Appearance” well, that ‘worked’ for awhile (like when I was 18 and entering college and tip-top PRE-BABY shape and boy-oh-boy, did the BOYS sure notice and well, didn’t that just ‘tell me’ each and every day, just how “VALUABLE’ I was, hmmmm??)….

But when that faded and it felt that no one was saying ‘pretty things about how pretty I was’, well just guess what happened then??? Boom, crash, burn (will this girl ever learn?? 😉 — and there I was, left in a pool and puddle of self-pity on the floor, needing to choose just what I would adore:  the reflection in the MIRROR  orrrrr, was there something MORE??…..

Yeah, GOD is pretty clear on this — and  sent me a sweet verse to start working straight in my SOUL:

“Charm is deceptive..and BEAUTY IS FLEETING, but a woman who FEARS THE LORD is to be praised”….Proverbs 31:30

Ohhh, I know it is easy to READ this — but to begin to REALLY believe this?? THAT Is another journey — and one will talk about later…As well as listen to a few women who have recently been bravely working on it, going through it, and getting past it too….Can you smell some SOUL-GROWTH coming thru?? :):)

So, I truly hope you will keep sticking with me and this series ladies: it is sorta serious stuff, but it’s the kind that can change your SOUL..

‘Till then, let me know if you were (are? am??…. ) like me and can see how you maybe slip into finding you SELF-WORTH in this easy-to-miss area of SELF-WORTH from PHYSICAL APPEARANCE….Is it something you are aware of, have avoided, or maybe are working thru??….No matter what, when or where,  I ‘double-dare’ you to be open and share  — and start the process of moving OFF those areas through authenticity….Who’s willing to GO there with me??…..Can’t wait to see — and chat with you — later today!..Carol 😉

Change-Choice-TRUTH