Good morning Team!

Well, it is TIME to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth to THE question I get asked THE most: How do I get my hair to LOOK the way it does??

Oh my, did you see THAT one coming?? LOL! Well, it is actually TRUE! I have had so many people ask, “Who cuts your hair?”

Or there are people who deliberately stop and stare. And even complete strangers have come up to me and said, “We just had to say, we just love your hair!!” How lucky am I??? 😉

And, of course, I just roll out of bed, toss my lovely locks into the air, and there they stay all day, right??? WRONG! NOPE! NADA! 

This “hairdo” DOES have a secret, and I will finally reveal it at the END of this bit because it reflects a TRUTH that ties into what we all go through and feel and struggle at times: ANXIETY.

AH! NOW I have your attention, don’t I?? :):)

OK, so here is the thing: I noticed when I’m chatting with all the young ladies I get to connect with through coaching, they are riddled with ANXIETY. (And aren’t we all???? OR have been at some point??)

But the longer I listened, the more I thought I saw a “pattern behind the problem,” and I think it is really this: FEAR of LONELINESS.

Yup, people (myself included) will do anything, and a lot of CRAZY things, to themselves AND to others, to avoid being LONELY or LEFT out or LEFT behind or LOOKED at differently.

And I get it! It totally makes sense to AVOID that at ALL COSTS because we are built to be RELATIONAL (aka be real with REAL people), even though at the same time a big LOUD piece of our brain believes we actually CAN’T let others “in” or “see” or “hear” who we REALLY are. And yet, it is that VERY BELIEF we think is “keeping us safe by keeping our secrets” that is slowly killing off all things satisfying: Real AUTHENTIC relationships. 

And so, where is the solution? I think, read, hear and now believe it is far more simple than all the counselors, books, media, magazines, doctors, teachers, or anyone else says or thinks.

And it seems to boil down to this: AUTHENTICITY. 

Yup, God has proven over and over and over again it IS best to be authentic, be yourself and begin to CHOOSE to really “live in the light”: secrets out, over, shared with someone who cares.

YES, it is TIME to talk about them, tell them and watch them shrink oh-so-rapidly in size, and see how JUST by naming them out loud, they diminish in power, purely by proving to you and your scared soul that, NOPE, that thing you’ve said in your head that “no one else can EVER know” or they’ll never like you…  never accept you… never embrace you… well, these “facts” were never FACTS but only false beliefs based on, you guessed it, FEARS (and P.S. likely IRRATIONAL ones at that)!

So, how do I know this?? Well, I have been APPLYING this  “Authenticity Journey” for a while in a lot of areas in my life, and what was so great to finally get is this TRUTH:

If I CHOOSE to RISK those IRRATIONAL BELIEFS through DOING opposite actions, well, I will start to PROVE them wrong to MYSELF and begin to be able to truly call them FALSE, which is where they belonged all along, 🙂 and I can begin to CHOOSE a NEW set of beliefs to LIVE by, not based on FEAR but on FAITH — one small step at a time.

AND that first step starts with using the best and best-priced “counselor” we have on hand all the time: by CHOOSING to be AUTHENTIC with GOD and first TELL HIM FULLY what we are FEELING. 

And then, follow that up with what HE says is a great thing to do: SEEK OUT someone in your world, someone full of good GODLY wise counsel to be AUTHENTIC with them. And not only will you begin to FEEL better, but they can guide you to get perspective on things and sometimes assist you to begin to realize that some of what you FEAR and believe are sometimes just straight-up silly LIES.

YIKES!! But so true. Trust me, I know. I MAY have BEEN there… a time or two. :):)

And so, through AUTHENTICITY, the BASE of the ANXIETY begins to break down, all by taking the one SCARY but OH-SO-BRAVE step: telling the TRUTH of what IS really going on in your life — no more perfect… no more pristine… no more placebo… just straight- up plain ol’ TRUTH. Because, my friend, the TRUTH will set you free.

And now, the well-anticipated TRUTH behind the oh-so-fabulous HAIRDO??? 

CURLERS and COWLICKS! LOL! 

Yup, I am a woman with a natural cowlick that lifts the front of my hair, BUT I have added 5 yellow foam rollers to bed on my wet head so that this naturally flat hair “wakes up” to look fuller and more “fabulous” than before!!

The SECRET is OUT!! LOL!! :):) 

But let me BE an example to you with this funny story — to take that FIRST step, take that REAL RISK and follow GOD’S TRUSTABLE TRUTHS over what your brain FEELS, and begin to TELL HIM, and then someone you trust, what is really going on.

It is STEP ONE to living THE REAL AUTHENTIC LIFE the LORD already has planned for you. I DARE you to CHOOSE it by being a bit more authentic with HIM, and someone else, today.

BE Bold, BE Brave, BE Beautiful Women of GOD.

Love ya ladies.

Carol 🙂

• Looking for the Best counselor EVER?? Check out Psalms 142, Psalm 151:18 and Proverbs 8:14.
• Want to learn more about the value of getting GODLY counsel from others?? Check out Proverbs 15:22 and Proverbs 20:18a.

Happy reading, ladies!